This was another busy week. I'll try not to get too detailed so this post won't be super long!
When I wrote last week, we were in NC for Nicole's memorial service, which was held on Saturday, May 16th. That morning, Frank and I went to the store to buy a book for people to sign at the service. When I got dressed that morning, I also discovered that the dress sandals I packed to wear to the service weren't in good shape at all--one was kind of broken and didn't stay on my foot very well--so when we went to the store to get the book, I decided to also look for some shoes. I was able to find some cute black dress shoes, so I got those as well as some tights so that the new shoes wouldn't rub against my feet and cause blisters.
We went from the store to the church to help with some more set up--mainly putting up a lot of photographs of Nicole. They called the service a "Celebration of Life" and it turned out nice. Frank and I were asked to give the prayers (me opening, he closing). Most of the service was opened up for anyone who wished to share memories or stories of Nicole. Most of the people who talked were her close friends. I didn't really have the opportunity to get to know Nicole very well (I only saw her about once a year), so it was nice to hear what her friends had to say about her--that she was always so kind and thoughtful and would do anything to help them. Some of them were really emotional, and one of them said that she was going to try to be more like Nicole from now on. I came away from that service thinking that her life may have been short, but it was definitely worthwhile.
After the service, the branch provided food for us. They told us it was not going to be a full meal, but it really was--several kinds of sandwiches, meatballs, sausages, fruit, veggie trays, cheese, crackers, cold cuts, and desserts. There was a ton of it, too. We were really grateful for that!
Sister Camille Johnson, the General RS president, was visiting in the Frederick area and had a special devotional for all the women 18 and up in our stake (held at our stake center), plus seven other surrounding stakes that afternoon. They asked Frank to set up a Zoom link for those who couldn't be there in person, so after eating, I was able to go to a room by myself to watch that meeting while the family continued to visit and then cleaned everything up. The devotional was awesome and I'm really grateful that I was able to watch / listen, even though I wasn't able to be there in person.
That evening we took Frank's parents to dinner at a Mexican restaurant. Then they came to our hotel room for a while to visit. His mom wanted to show us a quilt that she is working on for Scott (I wish I had taken a picture of the quilt).
We drove back home on Sunday May 17th. I wrote last week that the trip down felt shorter than normal to me. Well, that was definitely not true of the trip home! We got on the road about 8:30 am, and the first part of the trip was quite pleasant.
About three hours into the trip, however, the traffic got bad with lots of slow downs and stop & go traffic. There was road construction and at least one accident, and the GPS directed us off of the freeway three different times to avoid major problems. In the middle of all that, when we were still about 4 hours from home, I got a migraine and got really sick to my stomach. I was completely miserable--just wanted to be home so I could curl up in bed--and it felt like we were never going to get there because we were in practically stand still traffic. I finally started to feel a little bit better after I lost my lunch, and I dozed off for a short while. Eventually we got out of the really bad traffic and we finally made it home shortly before 7:00 pm. That 8 hour trip took over 10 hours! We unpacked and went to bed (didn't even bother to eat dinner--Frank had eaten some snacks and I didn't want to eat anything yet). Both Jared and Tanner called to talk to us while we were driving home but I didn't enjoy it much because they both called while I was in the throes of feeling sick, and we didn't talk very long.
Seth had an appointment that day with his stake president--he was called to serve as the 1st Counselor in his branch EQ presidency. He's been serving as a Sunday School teacher, but he will be released from that calling now.
I was feeling better on Monday May 18th, thankfully. I was able to get up and go to Seminary, although I didn't exercise since I still had a lingering mild headache and I hadn't eaten since lunch on Sunday. I taught my last lesson and felt like it went pretty well in spite of a lot of distractions. One of the boys brought in some cinnamon rolls that his mom had made so that was one distraction (although a yummy one--I'm not complaining!). The other distraction was that we had purchased pillowcases for all the seniors and we wanted everyone to sign those (but without the seniors knowing that was what was happening). So Tammy had set up the pillowcases and fabric markers in another room, and she was pulling 2 or 3 kids out of the room at a time to sign them. That meant that there was a lot of coming and going. It was a bit challenging for me as the teacher because when I wanted to call on someone to answer a question, I wasn't always sure who had been in the room to participate in the thing we had just done. I was also trying not to call attention to the fact that people were leaving the room! πSo it was kind of crazy, but overall I felt good about the lesson, which was based on Joshua 24:15 ("Choose you this day, whom ye will serve") Tammy told me afterwards that I did a great job handling all the distractions. And honestly, even though it was crazy, everyone was awake and there was a lot of energy in the room and I definitely prefer that to everyone falling asleep in their chairs!
After Seminary, my day was full with regular chores, reading scriptures, reading Moloka'i, taking a short nap, and going with Seth to a doctor appointment. His appointment was with the surgeon, and they scheduled his surgery for June 15th. The last surgery was to place a seton to help drain all the infection. This surgery will actually remove the fistula, using one of two possible methods. The surgeon isn't sure which one she'll be doing until she gets in there and looks at it closely.
Seth had his orientation for Chick-fil-A that afternoon. He also went to YSA FHE that evening. I forgot to mention that last week was his last week of classes for the semester, so he is done with school until at least the fall.
I went to bed around 8:30 on Monday evening, but unfortunately I woke up about an hour later (9:30ish) and was not able to go back to sleep until after 2:00 am. At least I wasn't teaching Seminary that day (Tuesday May 19th), so I survived on less than 3 hours of sleep. Tammy and I had a phone conversation to finish planning Wednesday's class (we didn't do that in person after Seminary because she was helping with the carpool) and then I took a 1 1/2 hour nap.
That afternoon I had a follow up appointment with my eye doctor. They took images of the inside of my eyes and both of my eyes are okay. He confirmed that there was no retinal detachment, tears, or holes in my left eye. I got a better explanation of what is going on with my eye (I'm not going to try to repeat it here; if you want to understand it better, you can look up "posterior vitreous detachment") and I feel less anxious about it now. The doctor said this happens to a lot of people as they age and that since this happened in my left eye, it's not unlikely that it will happen with my right eye within a few years. I'm still having occasional flashes of light and faint floaters in my left eye, but that is normal for up to 3 months. If I have another sudden onset of dark floaters and / or flashing lights, then I will need to get checked again, but other than that, I don't need to worry about it.
I didn't get a whole lot done on Tuesday besides the things I have mentioned. I was very tired (naturally) and I also still had a slight headache, so I just didn't have the energy to do much and decided it was okay to rest and let some of the chores wait until another day. Instead, I finished reading Moloka'i. It was a really good book.
Seth didn't have to work on Tuesday but I did have him mow the lawn. It's a good thing, too, because it started raining on Wednesday May 20th and it has been raining most of the time since then. (He almost forgot to mow it and thankfully I remembered shortly before sundown on Tuesday--he was out there mowing in the dark before he finished, but our lawn mower has headlights, thankfully.) We had near record temperatures on Monday and Tuesday (in the 90s!) but a cold front came through with the rain on Wednesday and the hight temperatures the last few days have only been in the 50s. It does not feel at all like May!
Wednesday was the last day of Seminary for the school year, and my last day, period. I'm still trying to wrap my mind around that fact. I actually slept well Tuesday night--I got about 7 solid hours of sleep, which is amazing, for me. For our last class, we played a couple of games--an old testament version of Taboo (to review some of what we learned) and a DM review game. We also had breakfast (Tammy brought muffins and egg casseroles, I brought chocolate milk and fruit), and we gave gifts to the seniors and gave each of them a few minutes to share advice / testimony.
Gift bags (we added brownie mixes and the pillowcases later):
We had a short devotional, which we took from the recent YA devotional given by Elder and Sister Stevenson. And I also got a few minutes to share a few parting words. On one of the days I was gone last week, Tammy told the class that I wouldn't be teaching next year and she started passing around a thank you card for them to sign, so she gave that to me. She also gave me a small gift and card from her. One of the boys in our class brought both of us some flowers, chocolates, and a thank you card. It was really nice to receive all of those things!











































