There's been a whole lot going on this past week. I am writing this week's post from Brevard, North Carolina. I had no idea last week when I wrote that I would be here. We got word on Saturday afternoon that Frank's niece, Nicole, had just passed away. (Nicole is his sister Becky's oldest daughter.) She was only 29 years old, so of course this was a big shock. We don't know exactly why she died (her brother found her lying on her mattress and couldn't get her to wake up) but will probably have more answers when the autopsy report is available. Anyway, that is why we are here--Frank and I drove down for the funeral, which will be tomorrow.
Saturday (May 9th) started fairly early for me because I woke up shortly before 5:00 am and couldn't go back to sleep. Frank took me to breakfast at the Silver Diner in honor of Mother's Day. I did a lot of Seminary stuff--finished preparing Monday's lesson and most of Tuesday's lesson as well, sent a few e-mails and texts, and sent an email to the stake Seminary supervisor to let her know about my decision to not teach next year. She did reply fairly quickly and it was a relief for me to know that someone at the stake level, at least, is aware of my decision. The email she sent me was really nice, too! I also did some reading in Moloka'i and called Mom. I knew she'd be busy on Mother's Day and that a lot of people would be calling her (since I have 7 siblings! 😄) so I decided to beat the rush and call her a day early. It was very nice to talk with her! Seth had a busy day, too--he was at work for a lot of the day, and when he got home he mowed the lawn. That evening we all (including Seth) went to a wedding reception for a girl in our stake. Her family lived in our ward for many years (and now lives in another ward in our stake) so we know them well. One of her younger brothers is in my Seminary class. Seth knows her pretty well because she went to the same charter school and was in the same middle school class with him; she also has been attending mission prep class and going to some of the YSA activities and meetings. (She actually received a mission call last fall but then she decided to get married instead, so she didn't go.) Anyway, it was a nice reception with a lot of people there and we ended up visiting with friends and stayed a lot longer than we intended.
I woke up around 5:00 am again on Sunday May 10th. Before church I read scriptures, helped put food in the crock pot for dinner, did some reading in Moloka'i, and opened gifts. My boys got me a statue of a mother with children (Seth also got me a card) and Frank got me a mother's ring.
At church, we had a special RS meeting (including the YW), with treats provided by the Elder's Quorum. It was nice. We also had a RS / YW photo taken--the RS president asked Frank to take that. He had to get up on a ladder to get all of us in the photo.
Frank attended our ward meetings but he also went to Branch Council and Sacrament Meeting for the YSA branch. We had FHE lesson after he and Seth got home from their meetings. I talked to all three of our older boys (although Tanner called after I had gone to sleep, so I didn't talk to him for very long).
I woke up at 2:30 am on Monday morning (May 11th) which wasn't awesome but I've had much worse nights! Seminary was frustrating because everyone was tired and didn't participate much. (It was a life prep lesson teaching a scripture study skill: making comparisons to find truths.) I ended the lesson with a good personal experience and I think they got something out of that, at least, but I felt kind of down a lot of the day. I took a short nap when I got home. Tanner called so I got to talk to him longer than the previous evening. I did regular chores and read through the Seminary lesson I will be teaching on Monday. (My last one!!) After Frank got home from work in the early afternoon, we picked up Genny (disabled daughter of one of the sisters I minister to) and watched her for about 3 1/2 hours. The sister I minister to wasn't feeling well, so we did this to give her a chance to get some rest. Genny seemed a little out of sorts, but it went okay. I sat on the couch with her and watched several episodes of "Leave it to Beaver". We also fed her dinner. After we took Genny home, we had FHE activity and treat. We got treats from Dairy Queen and we played a few rounds of Bananagrams.
We also found out on Monday that the funeral for Nicole would be this Saturday, so we had to start planning this trip. We had a lot going on this week-end, so we were hoping that the funeral would be later, but this week-end worked out the best for Nicole's immediate family so of course that is more important.
Seth had his follow-up interview with Chick-fil-A on Monday and they hired him, so that is good news. He has an orientation on Monday.
On Tuesday May 12th I woke up at 3:00 am, which is only 30 minutes early, so I was happy about that. My Seminary lesson went much better too, so I felt good about that. The topic was the first great commandment (loving God with all our heart, soul, and might). As part of the lesson, I asked them to make a quick list of ways God has shown His love for everyone or for them personally. Then I asked them to hand them in and we read all of them out loud. Everyone participated (even a few who usually don't), and there were some really thoughtful things written on their lists. I took a photo of all the papers when I got home.
After class, Tammy and I did some planning--made a list of all the things we need to get done in the next week and divided it up between us. Then I came home and made another list of all the things I needed to get done over the next two days before we left for NC on Thursday morning. Then I got busy with Tuesday's list, which included: re-planning that week's meals (since we would be gone and Seth needed some things that he could make himself) and also planning next week's meals, getting someone to attend Seminary in my place on Friday, making treats for my Seminary class for Wednesday (I promised I would bring a treat for anyone who finished all of the semester's required reading by Wednesday), planning Monday's Seminary lesson, listening to the recent SA devotional done by Elder and Sister Stevenson (we're going to use some things from that devotional for our short lesson on the last day of Seminary), taking some things to the storage unit, checking to make sure no bills needed to be paid while we are gone, cleaning the bathrooms, and sending an email about getting our water meter replaced (because apparently it has stopped working). Somehow I managed to get all of that done, and I even squeezed in a short nap in the early afternoon too. Seth went to Chick-fil-A to fill out some paperwork and went to his classes; Frank was at the temple that evening so he got home late (but not as late as usual--he got to leave a little early).
I didn't wake up until the alarm went off on Wednesday May 13th--that's always a big bonus for me! We had a guest teacher in Seminary. He did a good job. He is the father of one of the girls in our class and I thought it was interesting that she looked at her phone and talked to her friend through the entire lesson and didn't participate at all. She does that for us, too, but I thought she'd be motivated to behave differently for her dad--I guess not! Besides teaching a good lesson, he brought donuts, so the kids really liked that.
Frank had a dentist appointment in the morning and Seth had one that afternoon. Seth didn't give himself as much time as he should have to get there (he had to leave his second class a little early) so he was late and they almost cancelled his appointment, but he got there in the nick of time, thankfully.
I had another long list of things to do which included: laundry, dusting, grocery shopping (Frank came with me), finishing the lesson prep for Monday's Seminary lesson, writing a note in three birthday cards (for Seminary kids who have birthdays over the summer), contacting the missionaries to make arrangements for dinner (we were supposed to feed them on Saturday), sweeping & mopping the kitchen floor, preparing gifts for the four seniors in our Seminary class, preparing a game for Wednesday's Seminary class, and packing for our trip to NC. I did manage to get all of that done!
That evening I had book chat and Seth had Institute. I didn't finish Moloka'i in time for book chat, but I did get about half way through it and I plan to finish reading it because it is quite good. Everyone at book chat (who have finished the book) had good things to say about it, so I am motivated to read the rest even though there were a few "spoilers" from the discussion at book chat. We talked later than normal, so I got home quite late.
I woke up a little earlier than I needed to on Thursday May 14th, but it wasn't too bad. Frank had the day off because our plan was to leave for NC after I got back from Seminary. I exercised and showered. Right after I got out of the shower, I was very startled when I thought a dark brown bug of some kind was flying right in front of my face. I started swatting my hand at it and it moved, but not far. Then I realized that it wasn't actually a bug in front of my face, it was something in my left eye. I saw a dark brown jagged horizontal line move across my eye. Frank came & looked in my eye but couldn't see anything; I couldn't feel anything in my eye either. I realized then that it was actually a "floatie" in my eye, but a dark one instead of a clear one. I washed both of my eyes (I do that every morning anyway for my blepharitis) and after that the large brown floatie changed to small brown dots and then disappeared. Then I started noticing that I was seeing flashes of light from the outside corner of my left eye. I did a quick Google search and discovered that the symptoms I was experiencing could be associated with retinal detachment, which is an emergency situation that needs to be evaluated right away. We decided to call our doctor and we were able to talk to the doctor on call. She confirmed that my symptoms could indicate retinal detachment and said I should be seen that morning. She said I could either go to the ER or wait until their office opened at 8:00. We debated a bit, but ultimately decided to go to the ER since we had been planning to leave for NC around 8:00. At this point, we weren't sure we'd still be able to go, but we decided it would be better for me to be seen right away. The risk was that ER visits can sometimes (often) involve a very long wait, so we might end up taking more time than if we waited for the doctor's office to open at 8:00. We decided to risk it, though, and that did turn out to be the best decision. I texted Tammy about Seminary and she was (of course) totally understanding and said she'd ask one of the moms who is usually in the building to help with Seminary. I was sorry to miss Seminary since I have so few days left, but it couldn't be helped.
At the ER, I was taken back to triage within a few minutes and was then taken directly to a room without waiting. I did have to wait a while for the doctor to come examine me, but it wasn't too long. He checked my vision, the pressure in my eye, and did an ultrasound of my eye. After the ultrasound, he said that my retina was not detached, which was good news, but didn't give us a super clear explanation about what else could be causing my symptoms. Just something that happens with age sometimes. He said I could get a follow up appointment with an eye doctor for later that day. When we explained that we had intended to leave for NC that morning to attend a funeral and asked if it was still possible to go, he said that he thought it would be okay for me to go and to follow up with our eye doctor after I got back from the trip. I was discharged and we were able to head back home around 8:00. When we got home, I ate breakfast and we got ready to go--we were able to leave the house around 9:00 am, so not a lot later than we originally planned.
The drive down to NC went smoothly and it felt shorter than usual to me although it took about the same amount of time that it usually does. I took a short nap early on. We made it to Brevard around 6:00 pm. We checked into our hotel and then went to visit with Frank's parents for a few minutes. Frank's dad had a doctor appointment and they had to leave soon for that, so we didn't stay long. After we picked up some dinner, we came back to the hotel to eat. Frank talked with his sister Dawn on the phone for a while; I was so tired that I kept falling asleep.
We both slept well last night and both woke up around 5:00 am this morning (Friday May 15th). I know that is early, but for us, 5:00 am is sleeping in! We showered and headed down to the free breakfast buffet. After that we drove out to Dawn's house and spent the morning helping her with some preparations for the funeral. We helped create a program and then took Dawn with us to get copies of the program made and to buy some paper products for the snacks that will be served after the funeral. We also got some lunch and then took Dawn back home. We went back to our hotel and I took a very short nap (about 15 minutes) before I woke up because my stomach was hurting. Frank met Dawn and some of Becky's kids at the church to do some set up for tomorrow but I stayed here because of my stomach. Thankfully, I started feeling better after an hour or so and I feel fine now. When Frank got done at the church, we went to get some dinner. I have spent the time since dinner writing this post.
I am still seeing occasional flashes of light in the corner of my eye (more noticable when I'm in a dark room) and I also occasionally see a faint dark floatie in my eye, but nothing as dark as the one yesterday morning. I've been kind of anxious about what might be going on with my eye, but I was texting Amy about it this afternoon and she had some issues with seeing flashes of light in one of her eyes a few years ago (but not the dark floatie). She said she did some research and came across a condition called posterior vitreous detachment, which has a lot of the same symptoms as a retinal detachment. I looked it up, and it does sound similar to what I experienced, and it also sounds like what the doctor was describing to me yesterday morning, so maybe that's what he meant even though he didn't give it a name. At any rate, after reading about it, I am feeling a lot less anxious about what's happening with my eye. I was able to get an appointment set up with our eye doctor for Tuesday (I called his office yesterday while we were driving down here) so I can talk with him about it then and I think having another exam will set my mind at ease even more.
I guess I didn't specifically mention it, but Seth stayed home in Maryland. He had to work today and he works tomorrow too. Since we had signed up to feed the misisonaries tomorrow, we arranged with them to meet him at Roy Rogers when he gets off work tomorrow and he will buy them some food and they will eat together there. Frank has a whole bunch of meetings on Sunday that he is going to miss and I am going to miss a visit to our stake from Camille Johnson, the General RS president. There's a special devotional tomorrow afternoon at our stake center for all the women in our stake and 7 other nearby stakes. I am sad to miss it, but family comes first, of course. Tomorrow is going to be sad, but we will also see a lot of family members, so that will be nice.
I can't think of anything else that's been happening (that's quite enough, anyway, isn't it?!) so I will sign off until next week.






































