Friday, May 25, 2012

Weekly Review May 25 '12

Hooray for quiet weeks!  This is going to be a short one, folks--I mean it!  When I sat down Sunday evening to look over the schedule for the week, I was relieved to see that there were not a lot of events going on.  It's just what we needed.  Don't get me wrong--I kept busy--but I really needed some time to regroup and get caught up on all the housework and things that didn't get done last week.  Most of the days on my calendar for this week have a fairly long list of things to do on them, but they are mostly things like laundry and house cleaning.  Next week is going to be much busier, so I'm really thankful this week was more of a grace period.

Frank is continuing to recover from his surgery.  He is making pretty good progress and starting to act a lot more like himself again.  He did some work from home on Monday and Tuesday and the last three days he went in to work for 3 or 4 hours each day.  He went in later, so that he could get more sleep, and left early so he'd miss the evening rush hour.  The pain has diminished to a much more manageable level--he only needs some ibuprofen once in a while--and he is slowly starting to regain his strength and energy.  He is still trying not to push it too much though.  He tires easily and has to be careful.  We don't want any set backs!

I did have a YW activity (combined YW) that I was in charge of this Wednesday, so that kept me busy the first couple of days this week.  I had planning and shopping to do.  We planned an outdoor activity but I had also planned a back up activity in case the weather didn't cooperate.  It's a good thing I did because Wednesday afternoon it started to rain and came down fairly steadily all evening.  I think the activity went ok--the YW seemed to enjoy it.

The other thing I had to do this week is prepare for Seth's birthday.  I got the shopping for that done although there was not much to do since Frank had already purchased a few things for him on ebay.  Today they "celebrated" his birthday at school with the traditional "walk around the sun" ceremony:  


Seth is holding a globe to represent the earth.  The light in the middle of the circle represents the sun, and each of the word strips has a month of the year on it.  Seth started at the May wordstrip and walked around the circle 5 times because the earth has now gone around the sun five times since he was born.  In addition to this little ceremony, he also got to choose 3 favorite things to bring from home to tell about, bring a treat to share with the class if he wished, and present his updated birthday timeline, which has a picture of him for each year of his life.  So yesterday I was busy getting a print made of a photo from taken in the last year and baking 2 batches of cupcakes for him to share, plus helping him choose his 3 favorite things to tell about. 

Besides that, the only other "out of the ordinary" thing that happened this week was Jared had an orthodontist appointment yesterday afternoon.  We were almost late because when I got to the school to pick him up, he hadn't returned from a field trip.  (The Spanish teacher took all the 8th graders to a Mexican restaurant for lunch where they had to order their food in Spanish.)  They were supposed to be back an hour earlier, but the restaurant ran out of change or something like that.  The aid for Jared's class was nice enough to drive over to the restaurant to pick him up and bring him back to the school, so we weren't late for his appointment.  We saw the rest of his class walking home when we were on our way to the orthodontist!

Today was Scott's last day of school.  He is currently at Taco Bell with a bunch of other seniors, celebrating.  He is mostly happy about it but I think he is a little sad too.  The boys have a lot of social events going on the next few weeks as school wraps up (everybody but the seniors still have 2 weeks left) and it's going to be crazy trying to keep up with it all.  Tonight Scott & Tanner have a party for Scott's Sunday school class (all the Seminary age kids are invited) and Jared is going home from school with his friend Sage to spend the night. 

It has rained nearly every day this week for at least part of the day and it has been warm and VERY humid.  Starting to feel like summer!  We are hoping to get some yard work done tomorrow--the yard has been very neglected during the last several weeks of illness and injuries--but I'm not sure the weather is going to cooperate.  Hopefully the lawn will dry out enough that it can be mowed.  At least the weed pulling should be easier since the ground is damp.  Wish us luck!

Told you it was going to be short! :)

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Weekly Review May 20 '12

Hahaha...and I thought last week was a rough week, medically speaking.  I had no idea!  Most of you know by now that Frank had his appendix out this week.  I'll get to that "fun" story in a little while.  First of all, I wanted to go back to last Friday.  To my surprise, Frank insisted on going to the marriage class with me even though he was hurting a lot.  Scott went to spend the night with his friend David and Tanner went to a Seminary party, so Jared stayed with Seth.  Tanner got a ride home from the Seminary party and later he admitted that he had let one of the girls at the party paint his toenails!  That was something I had to document on film:


The crazy things teenagers do sometimes! 

Most of the things I had planned for Saturday didn't happen.  (I could say the same thing for almost every day this week.)  Frank was pretty much down most of the day so we didn't go on a walk or get any yardwork done and I skipped the baby shower I was planning to go to that morning so that I could stay with him.  I did clean the kitchen floor, helped Jared get some work done for scouts, and worked on planning a YW activity that I have coming up, but that was about all.  Frank sent Scott and Tanner on a mysterious errand which took a few hours--I knew it probably had to do with Mother's Day, but I couldn't figure out what it might be.  When they got back they mentioned that the car was making a funny hissing noise--Frank looked at it and said we were going to have to get it in to be fixed very soon.  Frank was supposed to speak in Sacrament Meeting on Sunday, but by Saturday afternoon it seemed pretty apparent that he wouldn't be able to go so we called our bishop to warn him about that.

Sunday was mostly a restful day--the boys helped out a lot since Frank wasn't able to do much.  The boys got me a cute card, a chocolate bar and the Hymns on CD--that explained the long mysterious errand.  They had driven all the way down to the LDS bookstore by the temple to get that and they got mixed up at one point and ended up headed toward northern Virginia.  In Sacrament Meeting, the bishop called on one of the missionaries and a couple of the youth to share testimonies to fill in the time Frank would have spoken--Jared was one of the ones he chose and Jared did a good job.  (He made everyone laugh when he started out by saying he was going to have a little chat with his dad later!)

By Monday morning Frank wasn't doing any better (maybe even worse) so we called and got him an appointment to see our doctor for early afternoon.  (We actually tried to get him in on Saturday, but there was a mix up and the doctor on call didn't call us back until after visiting hours.)  By this time I was pretty certain that he had something else going on besides a kidney stone but I didn't know what.  When the doctor examined him, we realized that he was very tender on his right side--until then Frank hadn't really realized that he was hurting in that area as well as his back.  I said "could he have appendicitis?"  Our doctor looked at me and said "that's what I'm thinking."  So he sent Frank in for a CT scan.  We had Seth with us at the doctor and the CT scan wasn't right away (Frank had to drink some nasty stuff an hour before the procedure) so I decided to go get Scott and Tanner out of school a little early to stay with Seth while I took Frank in for the CT scan.  We were suprised when the scan came back normal.  Our doctor had him come back to the office to draw blood for testing and then sent us home with pain meds to wait for the blood test results. 

Earlier that day we had dropped the car off to be fixed.  I had originally planned to have Seth's friend Henry over to play that afternoon--his mom had a baby about 3 weeks ago so I thought she could use a break--and then we were going to take dinner over to his family when I dropped him back off.  I had to cancel the play date but since I had already put food in the crock pot that morning we were still able to take dinner over.  For family night we watched Phineas and Ferb--not our usual thing, but Frank was not up to doing much. 

Tuesday was a busy day.  I had a presidency meeting that morning.  I was going to do it over the phone, but Frank convinced me that he would be ok without me for a few hours.  The boys and I all had dentist appointments that afternoon.  By the time we got back from that, Frank said he was feeling very dizzy.  I told him we'd better call the doctor back.  The blood work had come back normal, but I was concerned that he wasn't getting any better and new symptoms were popping up.  So he called our doctor back and the doctor told us to go in to the ER to have a surgeon check him out.  He said in spite of the tests he still thought Frank might have appendicitis.  So we got everybody fed and I left a list of things for the boys to do and off we went.  (One of the boys in the ward took Scott to pick the car back up; sadly it cost about $1300 to fix it.)  We arrived at the ER around 6:30 and Frank did not get taken back to be examined until 8:30.  That was no fun for him or me.  They did an ultrasound of his liver, gall bladder and pancreas and they all looked ok.  They did more blood work which also looked ok.  However, the doctor that examined him talked to a surgeon who also suspected appendicitis in spite of the negative test results, so the surgeon asked to have him admitted so he could watch him and probably do a laparoscopy of his appendix the next day.  By this time it was 11:30 and the surgeon said he couldn't have anything to eat or drink after midnight, so they gave him a small meal to eat (he hadn't eaten anything since mid morning) and then got him up to his room.  I stayed until they had him settled in so I didn't get home until about 1:00 am. 

I woke up right after 6:00 on Wednesday morning and discovered that Tanner and Scott had not woken up for Seminary.  I woke them up and they hurried and got ready to go--they made it to the chruch for the last couple of minutes of Seminary, I think.  I let them take one of the cars since I knew Frank wouldn't be going into work.  I got the other two to school and then went to the hospital.  I got there shortly before the surgeon came in to see Frank.  After examining him, he said he still suspected the appendix was the culprit.  He was quite an interesting guy, by the way--very exuberant and talked a mile a minute!  We decided to go ahead with the procedure to look at the appendix.  The way the surgeon put it was "if it even blushes or winks at me, I'm going to take it out."  He said he would look at the gall bladder too.  He originally hoped to get Frank in for the procedure in early afternoon, but apparently they had a crazy day in surgery and we ended up waiting all day--they didn't get him in until about 7:30.  When I came out to the family waiting room, I found our bishop there waiting for me.  He was hoping to get in to give Frank a blessing before the operation but it was too late by then.  He did come back after the surgery, along with our executive secretary to give Frank a blessing which I appreciated--they didn't get him back to his room until around 10:00 so it was a late night for them.  And they gave me a blessing, too, which I really needed. 

Anyway, the surgery wasn't long; only about an hour.  I went to the cafeteria to get something to eat and then realized that I couldn't really eat much because my stomach was in knots.  The surgeon talked to me after the surgery and he did take the appendix out--it was a little long and a little coiled.  He said he was about 85% sure that the appendix was the source of the problem.  Frank was pretty groggy that evening but I waited to leave until he was all settled in his room.  I had to run to the bank after that to get some cash out for Scott so I didn't get home until about midnight.  For some reason I woke up shortly after 5:00 and didn't go back to sleep so Thursday started early.

The boys, meanwhile, were being troopers getting their homework done (Jared had a big project due on Thursday), feeding themselves, and taking care of Seth.  I took Seth to my friend Michelle's house Wednesday after school--her daughter Camilla is Seth's age so they enjoyed playing with each other.  Scott picked him up there after he got home from school.  What a blessing that Scott has his driver's license!  The boys wanted to go to YM Wednesday evening so I had to scramble around a bit to figure out what to do with Seth.  They were having a special RS activity that evening also (I was supposed to sing in a group for that and help with a table display--didn't happen though) so I finally arranged for the boys to take Seth to the nursery that was provided at the church.  My friend Cyd agreed to be responsible for Seth while he was there since the YM were going to be playing games at a field a few blocks from the church.  It was crazy, but it all worked out.

When I called Frank's room on Thursday morning, he answered the phone and I could immediately tell, just by the quality of his "hello", that he felt better.  He confirmed that he did feel a lot better when I asked him.  He was very sore from the surgery, but the other pain was gone.  I was pretty relieved about that!  I got everyone to school again and went to the hospital to see him.  The surgeon stopped by again and said that he could be discharged that day.  We thought it would be afternoon, but again everything took a lot longer than we thought it would and he didn't end up getting home until 8:00 that night. 

Meanwhile, I went back to the school at 10:30 for Seth's class operetta.  He looked so adorable in his costume (he portrayed William McKinley).  Here he is:
        

Here he is with his friends Shade & Ryan:


And now with his friend Luke too:


Here he is on stage:


The theme of the operetta was "Who's on the Money".  The kids portrayed different people in American history who now appear on different coins and dollar bills.  Seth's part went like this: "I was the 25th president of the United States during the Spanish American War.  I'm on the $500 dollar bill.  Cha-Ching!"  He did a great job.  The whole operetta was well done and the kids were so cute.  I laughed my head off at Seth, who could not sit still for long and kept hiding behind other kids and dancing during the songs instead of singing and doing the actions like he was supposed to do.  (I was actually afraid he needed to go to the bathroom because he was so wiggly.)  His teacher is retiring at the end of this school year after 43 years of teaching!  So at the end of the operetta they did a little song for her (as a surprise) and presented her with a tree to plant in her yard.

As part of the play, she had each child paint a "store front".  Here is Seth, holding the store front for his Lego store:
 

 After the play was over, I took Seth by the hospital to visit Frank briefly.  Look, he actually has a smile on his face!  (First time we'd seen that in days...)


 I'm so glad my appendix is out!


After visiting Frank, Seth went back to Camilla's house to play again.  The car had been having more problems after Scott picked it up so I took Scott out of school again to help me drive it back to the shop.  Then Scott left me at the hospital because he needed to run errands that afternoon after school.  He had prom the next day and he still didn't know what he was going to wear.  He was able to find a nice vest and a tie to match his date's dress.  He also got his hair cut.  Doesn't he look nice?
    


After his errands, Scott came to get me to take me home for dinner, which our RS president provided for us (it was yummy too--and there was lots of food).  Then he went back with me to pick up Frank.  We are grateful for the care Frank received at the hospital.  He had some great nurses taking care of him.  He gave them our email address so they can contact him to get Marriott hotel discounts in the future!  We had a couple of interesting conversations with various hospital employees while we were there--they noticed Frank's Book of Mormon and a few asked us some good questions.  Frank was glad to come home but he was exhausted by the time we got him settled in bed at home and in quite a bit of pain.  I was pretty bone tired myself.  It is very nice to have him back home, though.

The next day, thanks to the G-8 summit at Camp David, school was cancelled.  What a blessing that was for us--we were all able to sleep late!  They said the traffic would be horrible in Frederick County that day, but we didn't have any problems in our neck of the woods.  Of course, we avoided getting on the roads that they said would be problem areas, so that probably helped.  The only thing different for us was that we saw a lot of helicopters going by overhead throughout that day and the next day too.  We didn't get any good pictures of them although some of them flew quite low overhead.  Here are a few of our attempts:
 



Once we got up, Friday was really busy--we had a lot to catch up on.  The boys helped a lot by doing a lot of cleaning and other chores.  I took Scott to get a corsage--luckily we were able to find one!  We picked the car back up (another $100) and then Scott went home while I did all the shopping.  By the time I got back home I barely had time to help Scott iron his clothes for prom before we had to be out the door.  Jared stayed with Frank; I took Tanner with us because I was dropping him off at his firend Ryan's house to spend the night.  Then I took Scott to another home where several couples were meeting to have dinner before the prom.  The parents were invited to come to take pictures as well.  Here is Scott with his date, Valeria:
   

It took a while for the whole group to arrive so I had to wait around a while.  Here is a shot of the whole group:


Here's the girls:


Here's a close up with Scott's date on the left:


And here's all the boys:


They had a nice catered dinner, apparently, and then went from there to the dance.  Meanwhile, I went back home and grabbed some dinner (pizza provided by one of my visiting teachers) and then took Jared and Seth with me to the local annual Greek festival.  I wouldn't have bothered except Jared needed to attend an ethnic festival to pass off one of the prerequisites for a merit badge class he was taking the next day.  The line for the food was way too long but we did get some Greek pastries (there was a much shorter line), listened to music, toured the Greek Orthodox church, and Seth got to try out the moon bounce:
 

As you can see, he enjoyed it!

We finally got back home and the boys went to bed but I had to stay up to pick up Scott.  He couldn't drive himself because for the first 5 months they have a 12:00 curfew.  After the dance his group went back to another girl's house to have breakfast.  I ended up picking him up around 2:00 am, so it was another late night for me.  (We saw a lot of police cars on the way home too.) 

I think Scott had fun at the prom, but I could tell the next day that something was bothering him.  He finally confided that he was very disillusioned by the behavior he had seen in a lot of his friends--the dancing was apparently very suggestive and by the time he left the breakfast, most of them had started drinking.  He said he was very uncomfortable and wanted to just leave a lot of the time.  To sum it up, he said "I lost a lot of respect for a lot of my friends last night."  I feel sorry that he had a bad experience but I think it was a good learning experience for him too.  He said he knew some of his friends did that kind of stuff but it was really hard to see them actually doing it.  I told him I am sorry he had a bad experience and yet I'm glad he was uncomfortable in that kind of situation, because he should be.  I'm just glad he is so strong and doesn't do that kind of stuff himself.

Yesterday was kind of a hard day.  (Hahaha--like the other days of this week were easy!)  I was really feeling the effects of all the stress and late nights.  I had a lot to do but couldn't focus to do any of it.  By early afternoon when I hadn't accomplished much of anything, I decided to take a nap.  That helped a bit--I was able to get the budget caught up that evening.  Scott slept late, of course, and then that afternoon he worked another band show from 4:30 to 10:00.  Tanner came home that afternoon from Ryan's and then went to a regional dance that evening.  Jared had his merit badge class (Citizenship in the World) that afternoon.  I was supposed to drive and chaperone the dance but there was no way I could leave Frank and I was exhausted too so thankfully they found someone else to drive in my place.  My other visiting teacher provided dinner that night, which we really appreciated.   

Frank has been laying low since getting home, of course.  He has been in a lot of pain and he is totally wiped out from a week of pain and then the stress of surgery.  He gets up and moves about a bit every day but it hurts him to do that and he is very tired afterwards.  It has been a bit of a challenge to keep our bouncy four year old from hurting Frank.  When I first got Frank home I was explaining to Seth that if he wanted to hug Daddy, he had to do it very gently.  I was tickled when Seth immediately started blowing kisses at Frank instead of hugging him--how cute is that?  Frank didn't make it to church today, of course, but this afternoon we went on a short walk around our court.  It is just going to take some time for him to recover.  He will be working from home the next couple of days at least and maybe longer.  He can't drive in to work until he is off the pain medication.  Maybe by the end of the week he will be able to go in for a part of the day.  His boss has been very understanding (he had his appendix out himself several years ago) and they are going to allow him to take time off now even though he doesn't have vacation days accrued yet.  That means he probably won't have any vacation days this summer, but we don't have much choice and we are just glad they are being flexible about it. 

I went to Sacrament meeting today but then came home to stay with Frank.  I took a short nap which I really needed--I still feel wiped out too.  I have missed so many YW meetings and activities the last few weeks, though.  I have really missed the girls and hope things will get back to normal soon.  (Whatever "normal" is!)  Please remember us (especially Frank) in your prayers.  I know you have already been praying for us, and we really appreciate it! 

I am hoping this week is a LOT more low key and restful than this last week has been.

Friday, May 11, 2012

Weekly Review May 11 '12

This was a rough week for us, medically speaking.  The first thing that happened is I got "pink eye".  I felt like I was having a hard time focusing on Saturday morning and by dinner time my right eye was quite red and I realized that it was a bit "goopy"--that explained the focusing issues.  By Sunday morning my right eye was red and swollen and my left eye was starting to get red too.  So no church for me--Frank took the boys to Sacrament Meeting and stayed for the first part of Primary to hear Seth share his testimony (except Seth refused to say what we had prepared so Frank did it for him) and then he came home so he could take me to our doctor's walk-in clinic, which they have on Sunday afternoons.  I was surprised to discover that I had a fever in addition to my eye symptoms.  The doctor looked in my nose and said it looked really irritated by allergies as well so besides antibiotic eye drops, I also got a nasal spray for allergies and a prescription for an antibiotic that I was supposed to fill later this week if I still had a lot of congestion and cough.  Here are my eyes on Sunday:



They don't look too bad in the picture, actually, but you can see that my right eye is a bit swollen.  (I tried to open my eyes wide for the picture.)  The redness isn't showing up too well in the picture but trust me--it was really red!  I spent the rest of the day resting and reading a book called The Prisoner of Zenda, which was pretty good--an old adventure kind of story. 

The second thing that happened is that on Monday I was feeling well enough to get some work done and I decided to clean the living room floor.  Bad idea!  That involved crawling around on my hands and knees and somewhere in the process I must have put too much strain on my back because by evening it was really hurting.  Tuesday morning it was a lot worse and I spent most of Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday lying down as much as possible.  If I tried to move around it was really painful.  Basic things like leaning over or reaching for things were mostly impossible and even shifting my body a little in my seat could cause excruciating pain.  So needless to say, I didn't get much done those days.  Frank worked from home on Wednesday so that he could help me out and get the boys to school and so forth ,which was a BIG help.  I tried to get a few things done--like things that I could do on my computer--but even holding the laptop on my lap hurt and it was hard to think so eventually I gave up and watched television shows on Netflix for a good part of two days.  Pretty boring!  Frank did all the shopping for me this week and the boys helped out with cleaning so the house is not a complete disaster which I am grateful for. 

My back gradually improved those two days and this morning I noticed dramatic improvement--I am almost back to normal although I still have to be careful.  It's a good thing too because yesterday later in the afternoon Frank started complaining that his back hurt and today it is much worse.  We're not sure what is going on with him, but suspect he may be having kidney stone issues.  He did go in to work this morning because he had a couple of meetings today and other things going on that he felt like he couldn't miss but after a few hours they told him not to worry about it and sent him home!  So he is lying on the couch groaning.  I hope whatever it is goes away soon!

Scott went to the dermatologist on Monday and Tanner had a check up for his medication yesterday so the medical profession has received a good deal of income from us this week.  I never did fill my antibiotic prescription.  The congestion and cough seemed to be improving although they've never gone completely away and today I'd say they are worse again.  I'm just thankful that it doesn't kill my back to cough anymore!  That definitely added to my misery the last few days.  I'm pretty sure the cough and congestion are allergy related at this point, although it is hard to tell.  If not, it's a wicked virus because it's been over 2 weeks since I started having symptoms.

Well, enough complaining!  We did have a few other things going on this week besides medical miseries.  Saturday was busy because the older boys had a service project and hike with all the YM / YW in our stake.  They did cleaning / yardwork at Catoctic National Park which is nearby and then they did a 3 mile hike which was supposed to help them get an idea of how prepared they are for the trek this summer.  After the hike they had lunch, which Frank helped to cook so he was gone all morning too.  I was helping with transportation back from the activity so Seth and I went up there near the end and we got lunch too.  It was beautiful up there--we really should get up there more often!  (But not next week end--the G-8 summit will be going on up there next week end so I'm sure we won't be allowed anywhere near there.)  Saturday evening Tanner and Jared went to a party at another ward member's house.  Scott was invited too but he opted to go with his friend Ricardo to see Avengers again.  All the boys absolutely LOVED that movie, by the way!

Scott worked two band shows this week--one on Monday and one last night.  Tanner went with him for company and to see how it's done.  I was supposed to have a presidency meeting Wednesday morning but the YW president was sick so we postponed it which worked for me since that was one of my worst days with my back.  Unfortunately, we both also missed the youth temple trip that evening.  We were both planning to drive down to help with rides as well as with the girls so we spent quite a bit of time on the phone Tuesday trying to find replacements.  In the end, we only found one sister who could go so they just had to make do with two sisters helping the girls instead of three (the secretary had also planned to go down, and thankfully she did make it).  Frank planned to take my place as a driver if it was needed but it turned out they had plenty of people to drive since a lot of priesthood holders were going down to help with the ordinances.  That was nice because he was able to come back home and stay with me--and take care of Seth so that I didn't have to.

All three of our older boys did go down to do baptisms and they had a great experience.  At the temple they are trying a different way of having the kids come in.  There is a separate entrance for the baptistry but this time they brought them all in through the temple's main entrance, past the recommend desk where the adults come in.  Immediately behind the recommend desk is a long indoor "bridge" (it goes over the road that leads down to the baptisty's main entrance) with windows on both sides with nice views of the temple grounds and at the end of the bridge there is an open area with a beautiful chandelier and a large mural of the Savior with people from all different eras standing on either side of him--the people on his right are happy and worshipful and the people on his left are turning away in shame.  The Washington DC temple is in the background.  They brought the kids over the bridge so that they could see the mural and then took them down the stairs from there to the baptistry.  When the boys came home, they all talked about how amazing it was to go in the temple that different way.  I'm glad they got to have that experience!

Yesterday Scott took the AP English test.  I told him I got a "5" (the top score) on that test--but no pressure! ;)  When I asked him how it went he said "awful".  He is pretty sure he didn't pass it, but I guess we'll just have to wait and see.  He certainly didn't get the intense preparation that I got for that same test.  Our AP English class was an all year class so we had from September to May to prepare and to hone our skills.  Here it is only a semester class, so Scott has only had since the end of January to get ready.  So I really didn't expect him to do as well as I did!  All things considered, I'd say if he does pass it that would be quite an accomplishment.  I figured it was worth a try, anyway.  When I talked to his teacher at conferences she said he was doing well enough in class that she thought he could pass it.

Scott's other news is better--he got asked to go to prom!  The girl who asked him is a foreign exchange student from Italy and according to Scott and Tanner, she is beautiful.  (I haven't met her yet.)  She has been in theater with them all year so they are good friends too and Scott is excited to go.  He'll be going with a group of kids from theater so that should be fun for him.  It's last minute though since Prom is next Friday.  He will be busy getting ready. 

This afternoon I took Seth to a ward friend's house so he could try on his suit--we are going to borrow it for his costume for his play.  After I couldn't find one to buy second hand, I sent around an email to the ward to see if anyone had a suit his size.  Thank goodness someone did!  That is one less thing for me to worry aobut.  The play is on Thursday and he has his lines memorized so I'm sure he'll do great!

Frank and I were planning to go out to eat tonight before attending our final marriage & family relations class, but at this point it doesn't look like Frank is going to make it to that.  I will probably have to go without him (just to the class, not to eat)--unless I end up taking him to the ER instead.  Hopefully, that won't happen!

I'll finish up with a few pictures I took of Seth yesterday.  He was sitting on the couch with light from the window playing over his face and I thought he looked so cute--shirtless, cookie crumbs on his face and all--that I tried to get it on camera.  Here are the results:








Oh, and one more thing for you Harry Potter fans out there.  Scott discovered on Saturday that the Pottermore website was open finally so the older three boys and I all got signed up.  Tanner and Jared were sorted into Gryffindor, Scott is in Hufflepuff, and me--I'm in Slytherin.  What the random?  I guess I have a dark side that I don't even know about.

Saturday, May 5, 2012

My Childhood Home & Neighborhood, Part 4--Lancaster, California


1021 Morven Street Lancaster, California 93534

(This picture was taken from Google and is only a few years old.  The house looks much the same as I remember it looking when we lived there, though.  We never parked cars on the side lawn, the tree in front is much larger, and I think there were trees similar to the one right by the garage planted in front of the short adobe brick wall, but other than that it hasn't changed much.)

Before I start talking about my fourth childhood home, I want to thank Amy for going to Mom & Dad's house and finding and scanning pictures taken while we lived in this house.  That's why there are a lot more pictures in this post than in the others, which makes it a lot more interesting, I think.  So a great big THANK YOU to Amy for her help!!!  Thank you also to Frank, who figured out a way to get the picture of the front of the house off of Google.  What would I do without him?

We moved from Houston, Texas to Lancaster, California in March 1977.  Lancaster is in the middle of the Mojave Desert, so it was quite a change from green, humid Houston.  I remember when my parents went to Lancaster to go house hunting because for the first time I had a real opinion about what I wanted our new house to be like.  The main thing I remember us younger kids wanting was a pool.  Don't all houses in California have a pool?  Well, no, they don't (obviously-- none of our previous California houses had a pool) but we got lucky this time and our new house did indeed have a pool.  I remember how excited we all were when we heard the news!

I remember the plane ride from Houston to Los Angeles because the flight we were on was continuing to Hawaii.  The airline provided coloring books for us that were full of Hawaiian themed pictures.  I thought it would be cool to go to Hawaii and I was disappointed that we weren't going there--and a little confused why we couldn't just stay on the plane and go!  (I still haven't been to Hawaii--sigh!) 

Anyway, we got off in LA.  Everything seemed so bright to me; I was used to all the shade trees in Houston.  I don't know exactly what day we arrived in California, but as it turns out we arrived several days ahead of our furniture; the moving van broke down or something like that.  We stayed in a hotel (Antelope Valley Best Western) for several days which I thought was kind of cool but also boring because we had very few toys to play with.  I remember wandering around the hotel grounds and discovering shuffle board games, small fountains and gardens.  I thought it was very pretty but there wasn't much to do.  The coolest part of the hotel stay was getting to eat at the hotel's coffee shop every day.  I discovered that I love BLT sandwiches!

I remember going to visit the house at least once when it was still empty.  I thought it was pretty ugly from the outside (particularly the rust red color) but it was a nice house in many ways. 

We had a small grass yard in the front of the house.  Behind the lawn, a short adobe brick wall surrounded a small courtyard immediately in front of the house.  I liked the courtyard, which was made up of cement slabs with decorative brick in between.  There was an opening in the middle of the courtyard where a tree was planted so it was usually fairly shady in there.  There was also a pomegranite bush growing up against the house.  There was a walk from the driveway up to the front door that ran along one side of the courtyard (the side that was created by the garage wall).  The garage roof sloped over the front walk but in front the roof was only the beams, so you could see the sky overhead.  On the right side of the front walk (next to the courtyard) there was a long bench.  I liked that bench--in nice weather, it was a great place to play or to sit and read a book.

The front door opened into a small foyer that was open to the living room.  Stairs leading up to the 2nd floor were on the left side of the foyer (when you walked in).  They ran along the left wall, but were open to the living room on the right.  To the left of the front door there was a door to the 2 car garage.  I think there may have been a closet there too, but I can't remember for sure.  The picture below was taken in the living room; you can see the front door in the background.  I had forgotten that we had a mail slot in the front door instead of a mailbox, but there it is in the picture.              


Shellie, 8th grade graduation, June 1977

Check out the orange shag carpet on the floor and the record player behind Shellie! 

The living room was rather dramatic, with a cathedral ceiling.  The stairs leading up to the second level had a wrought iron railing and there were no risers behind the cement slab steps, which were also covered with orange shag carpet.  My mom immediately made a rule that no one was allowed to go under the steps and put their hand through the openings between steps in order to grab the ankle of someone who was ascending or descending the stairs. (For obvious safety reasons!)  We also were not allowed to climb up the steps on the outside of the railing, which was possible since the railing was set four or five inches from the outer edge of the steps.  At the top of the steps there was a room that was open to the living room below, with a wrought iron railing running along that side of the room.  I thought it was so cool that we had an indoor balcony!  My mom immediately made a rule that we were not allowed to throw or hang anyone or anything over the balcony.  (For obvious safety reasons!)  Erick blatantly disobeyed that rule as soon as he got home from college that spring by grabbing me in a cradling position in his arms and hanging his arms with me in them over the edge of the balcony.  I remember being terrified and screaming my head off although he probably had a pretty good grip on me and I doubt now that my life was in peril.  (But he still scarred me for life--thanks, Erick!)  In spite of my obvious fear of heights I do remember that I sometimes liked to sit on the floor of the balcony room (as we called it) with my legs dangling over the edge--there was just enough room between the bottom of the railing and the floor for me to slide my legs through there.  Sadly, it doesn't appear that we took any pictures of the stairs or the balcony so you will just have to try to visualize them.

The living room also had a fireplace on the front wall (opposite from the balcony) which you can see in the photo below:     


There was a sliding glass door to the backyard (actually side yard, I guess) on the right wall (opposite from the stairs) which you can see behind the couch in the picture below:

 
Ben and Tim, probably around February 1978

Those things on their arms were full of air and the idea was you could "box" each other without hurting anyone or anything.  Theoretically, anyway...!

Or maybe that is actually a window behind the couch.  There may have been a window next to the sliding glass door; I can't remember for sure.  The door is definitely behind Tim in the picture below, although it is covered up by lovely orange curtains (to match the orange shag carpet).  Gotta love all the orange!


Tim's 11th birthday, March 1978

Behind the living room was a large eat in kitchen.  When entering the kitchen, the cupboards and appliances were on the right; they ran along the front wall and turned the corner on the right wall.  I think there may have been a pantry in the left wall but I don't remember for sure.  The right wall was lined with windows and the back wall also had windows as well as another sliding glass door leading to the back yard.


Here is Ben sitting on the kitchen table. (February 1978, sixth birthday)  Did we really have a harvest gold dishwasher?!  Apparently we did--you can see it on the right side of the picture behind Ben.  (Well, it was the 70's after all.)  You can also see a window behind Ben.  It was one of these windows along this wall that a burgler used to enter our house one night (after removing the screen), although he (or she) left everything except my Mom's purse untouched and the only thing missing from my Mom's purse was a small amount of cash.  (We found her purse in the bushes later, after cancelling all the credit cards and changing the locks on our house.)  But I digress.  In the picture below you can see a little more of the kitchen counters and cabinets.  I had forgotten that the counters were white tile until I saw this picture.  I also forgot about the ugly brown shade over the kitchen window, but I do remember I liked having a window over the kitchen sink because I could look outside while I did the dishes.  I think there was a shelf just outside this window for plants, but we didn't use it (none of us were really green thumbs back then).

 March 1978
Clockwise from left: Amy, Ben, Hans, Me, Tim, Shellie


Ben, February 1978.  Yes, he got two cakes that year.  This one was for the family, on his actual birthday.  The other one was for his birthday party. 

You can kind of see in this picture that the eat in area of the kitchen was fairly large.  There was room behind the kitchen table for the typing table you can see in the photo, as well as for several other pieces of furniture.  You can see the linoleum floor, too.  When we moved into the house, this whole area had shag carpet (brown, I think).  Who puts shag carpet in their eating area?!  My parents were not thrilled with it either, apparently, because shortly after moving in, they pulled up the carpet and installed the linoleum floor, which came in squares.  You can see more of the floor in the picture below.  I remember I liked the new floor although it looks a bit wild to me now.
 
Ben, February 1978

In the picture above you can see more of the furniture that fit along the left wall.  This picture also shows the beginning of a hallway.  If you went down this hallway, there was a bathroom and the master bedroom (with its own bathroom at the back, probably directly behind the hall bathroom) on the left and a laundry room and another bedroom (Shellie's) on the right.  There was a built in cabinet at the end of the hallway.  The hall bathroom had a tub but the upstairs bathroom didn't, so I remember taking baths down there.  I remember that a few times when Shellie wasn't home she let Amy and I sleep in her room, which was a special treat (for some reason). 

In the photo below you can see the sliding glass door leading out into the backyard.  (Mickey is taped to it).  I think that's my Mom's desk on the left (behind Donald) and you can see more orange curtains on the right.  (In our defense, I think all the orange curtains were already there when we moved in.)  


 I included the picture below because you can see some of the detail of the linoleum floor.  Plus, that's a pretty cool cake, don't you think?  Those red hearts are chewy candy hearts.  Shellie probably decorated the cake--she did most of the cake decorating by this time, being a lot more talented at it than the rest of us.


 I don't have any pictures taken in the upstairs of the house.  The balcony room was at the top of the stairs and extended to the right.  We used this room for a television / family room.  There was a window in the right wall that had a wooden shade instead of curtains.  I liked the shade because it had a colored glass panel in it.  There were three bedrooms and a bathroom upstairs also.  The bedroom that Amy and I shared was immediately behind the balcony room, in the corner of the house located over the kitchen.  It had dark blue shag carpet on the floor; I remember I liked the color.  It was a pretty large room, with plenty of room for our twin beds and other furniture, and it had a large walk in closet too (on the left wall).  I don't remember much about the room's decor anymore except that there was a red, white and blue striped curtain on the window (in the wall opposite from the door and closet) which clashed spectacularly with our cute pink / green / yellow pastel bedding that we brought from the Houston house.  I liked the "4th of July" curtains, though. We may have used different bedspreads while living there (maybe red or dark blue ones?) but I can't remember now.

The bedroom next to ours (overlooking the backyard) belonged to Hans.  He shared it at various times with Erick or Curtis, although Erick was living at college (BYU) a lot of the time that we lived in Lancaster and Curtis was on his mission when we moved there and came home very shortly before we moved away.  He only lived in the house for a couple of weeks.  Next to Hans's room, on the opposite corner of the house from the room Amy and I shared, was the bedroom that Tim and Ben shared.  A large L-shaped walk in closet connected their bedroom to Hans's room.  When we moved into the house, we could walk all the way through the closet from one room into the other, which we thought was pretty cool.  Shortly after we moved in, however, my dad built shelves for the closet which were placed so that the large closet was divided into two smaller ones and we couldn't walk through it anymore.  The upstairs bathroom was next to Tim & Ben's bedroom, across the hall from Hans's room.

That finishes up the description of the house.  We had a large backyard at this house too, but there was no lawn.  The entire backyard was concrete slabs with decorative brick trim, just like the courtyard in front, with the exception of the small narrow side yard on the master bedroom side of the house, where there was dirt--we planted a garden there but I don't remember having much success with it.  Having a concrete backyard may sound extremely barren, but it wasn't.  There were a number of openings in the concrete where trees were planted--mostly in the side yard next to the kitchen.  Those trees had fruit on them that looked like cherries but tasted like plums.  We dubbed this strange fruit "chums", and for years after we moved away from Lancaster, you could still find jars of "chum jam" on our pantry shelf.  At some point someone told us that the real name of the fruit was Chinese Plum, but by then the name "chum" had stuck.  Sometimes we missed having a grassy backyard (and the swing set and jungle gym had to be sold before we left Houston) but the concrete was good for games of hopscotch or four square.   


This photo of me on my 9th birthday (July 5, 1977) was taken in the backyard. You can see the concrete ground in front of me and some of the brick trim behind me.  You can also see that the yard was surrounded by a tall adobe brick wall.  (Notice I got a life preserver, for use in the pool.  I got some great presents that year, by the way.  That big Lego set was so cool...we built things with that set by the hour.  We played the Cat's Eye game by the hour too...that's what kids used to do before there were video games.  And I am so mad at myself for not keeping that Holly Hobbie colorforms dollhouse set!  It had vinyl furniture cutouts that could be stuck wherever I wanted on the dollhouse panel, which had three stories with a large room on each floor.  The panel with the house could be propped up and a lamp put behind it.  Several of the windows / lights had cut outs in the cardboard and were covered with a thin paper so that when the light was on behind it, it looked like the lights in the house were on and that moonlight was shining in the windows--so cool!)  Ok, that was a long sidetrack; sorry.  The entire back end of the yard was fenced off with a wrought iron fence enclosing the pool area.  (My mom immediately made a rule that we were not allowed to go into this area at all unless we were with an adult, for obvious safety reasons.  Are you noticing a theme here?)  There was a large planter with trees and flowers at one end of the pool area (it was a pain to get the hoses out there to water it), but most of this area was filled up by the pool.
     

Here is Ben standing in front of the gate to the pool.  (May, 1977)  Doesn't he look cute in his baseball uniform?  I remember the first time we went to see the house that I rested my arms on top of the gate and got quite a shock (a static electric one).  Behind Ben, you can see the shallow end of the pool.  There were steps on the side nearest to him.  On the far left of the picture you can sort of see a seat on the far side of the pool.  Shellie and several friends (I think her YW class maybe) are sitting on this seat in the picture below:
 

July 1977
Shellie is in the pool, second from left

On the far left of this picture you can barely see some brick steps.  The deck around that end of the pool (the deep end) was higher than the rest of the pool area.  There was a small diving board on that end, too.  I did not know how to swim when we moved to California, but I took lessons while we were there and became fairly proficient.  We actually got to take lessons for free in our own pool because we allowed the YMCA to use our pool to teach several swimming classes in the mornings during the summer months.  (I still remember one little boy who must have been scared of water, who would arrive at our house screaming for every lesson and had to be dragged through our side yard to the pool by his mother.  He probably still has nightmares about our house.)  We had to stay away from the pool while lessons were going on--we were only allowed outside for our own lessons.  I don't remember spending a ton of time in the pool, but we all look very tan and / or sunburned in most of the pictures from this era, with sunbleached hair, so we probably swam more often than I think we did and by the time we moved away I could swim underwater from one end of the pool to the other (the long way) without coming up for air.  Hans was even more impressive--he learned how to blow water out of his lungs so that he could walk on the bottom of the pool in the deep end.

Here's one more shot taken in the backyard, where you can see one of the trees growing in the planter in the pool area as well as the pool area wall, just to the right of the gate.  (My birthday photo was taken in the corner behind where Erick is standing, next to the adobe brick wall.)
    

Erick in September 1978, shortly before leaving for his mission.
Love the glasses!  And the wide tie! :)

Our house was in a neighborhood surrounded by another adobe brick wall.  I didn't like this neighborhood as much as the Houston neighborhood--it wasn't as pretty and I didn't really find a "kindred spirit" among the neighborhood kids, at least not until another Mormon family with girls close to my age moved in down the street. 

We used to walk down the street and around 3 corners to get to our bus stop just outside our development on 10th Street East.  There was a large vacant lot just outside the neighborhood where Joshua trees and various other cactus grew.  (I doubt it's vacant now though.)  A few blocks down 10th Street on the corner of Avenue J, there was a grocery store called Market Basket.  Across the street from the grocery store was a Seven Eleven; we sometimes rode our bikes over there to buy candy.  Our church building was also on Avenue J, a few blocks down from the Seven Eleven.  It was a walkable distance from our home, but it was a long walk and I only remember actually walking there once.  

Lancaster was very small when we lived there (I hear it's grown a lot since then.)  It was quite a change from the large suburban areas we lived in previously, in Houston and Denver.  There weren't a lot of places to shop--I remember going to a department store called Gemco (kind of like Wal-Mart, only MUCH smaller) to buy birthday presents for siblings but I think my parents had to roam pretty far afield, to the outskirts of Los Angeles maybe, to get any serious shopping done for things like Christmas or boys going on missions.  The area was somewhat agricultural, I think, and there was a community fair every year--I remember going to see a rodeo at the fair once.

We only lived in Lancaster for about 18 months, arriving in March 1977 and moving away in December 1978.  I liked living there but I don't remember being terribly sad when the time came to move again.     

Friday, May 4, 2012

Weekly Review May 4 '12

Greetings!

I don't think there is a whole lot to write about this week.  We certainly kept busy, but not doing anything that I would consider exciting or terribly interesting to read about.  But since our last bit of excitement was a mild head concussion, I am not going to complain about a lack of excitement now.  Here's a (hopefully) brief rundown of what we did, though.

Jared was still recuperating from being sick on Saturday.  Seth and I stayed home with him and got chores done around the house.  Everyone else was gone all day.  Frank was gone from 8:30 in the morning until 10:30 that night pulling cables at the stake center.  Not a lot of fun for him, but it has to be done so that broadcasts can be sent from there to other buildings in our stake.  He still has some work to finish up there, but the bulk of it is done.  Scott and Tanner did lawn aeration in the morning for a scout troop fundraiser (Jared would have gone too if he had been well enough), then helped Frank at the stake center for a few hours, then went to work at their play at the high school.  It was the last performance and since this was the last play of the school year, it was Scott's last time working a play in high school.  Traditionally, they have what they call "senior night" at the last performance of the the year--that's where the director gets with the cast afterwards and talks for a few minutes about each of the seniors involved in the play and they all get flowers and some gifts and everybody cries a lot.  They arrived home late, sniffing and with red eyes!  Tanner's description of the event was "an emotional train wreck"!  (Ah, if they only knew that after high school ends, life just gets better!  Not that I am making light of their feelings, because it's true that change is hard and it's always sad to leave good friends.) 

Frank was super sore all over on Sunday from all the manual labor he did the day before.  Scott and Tanner were pretty tired, too.  We had a combined RS / Priesthood / YM / YW meeting since it was a 5th Sunday; they talked about our stake's public relations plan.  Frank and the older three boys went to a stake priesthood meeting that evening.

On Monday morning I went on a fruitless search for a costume for Seth.  He's portraying William McKinley in his class play in a couple of weeks.  In all the pictures I've found of him, he's wearing a dark suit--coat, vest, pants, and bow tie.  He doesn't own a suit and I don't really want to buy a new one so I tried finding one used, but didn't have any luck.  I did acquire a new purse, though--my old one was wearing out.  The old purse was also smaller than I really needed so I got one that is a little bit bigger and I am very happy with it so far. 

I started feeling like I might be coming down with Jared's illness on Saturday, but I fought it off and tried to ignore it until Tuesday evening.  By then (after putting in a full day of house cleaning and errands) I was aching all over and felt feverish, besides congested and coughing.  So I went to bed early and Wednesday I laid low.  Frank was great--he took the older boys to Seminary and stayed home long enough to take the younger boys to school.  He made dinner after he came home from work, too.  I asked the new Mia Maid advisor and one of the girls' moms to help with the Mia Maid class activity that evening so that I could stay home.  Thankfully, having that one day of rest seemed to really help--I felt a lot better on Thursday and was able to do everything I needed to do that day, including a few things that didn't get done on Wednesday.  I picked up a bunch of new t-shirts and shorts for Seth, since he is growing out of all his clothes.  I also got several basic t-shirts for myself--I'm noticing that most of mine are wearing out and have grease stains on them (I really need to remember to start wearing an apron when I cook!)

Unfortunately, Frank came down with my illness yesterday.  He stayed home from work and was really quite miserable all day but he had a meeting he had to be at today (more on that later) so he went in.  Thankfully, he is already feeling a lot better today so it wasn't as hard for him to go to work as I thought it was going to be.  Technically, he doesn't have any sick days earned yet so he will be working some extra hours next week to make up for yesterday.

Today I took Snickers to the vet for an immunization that was due and got the budget caught up.  The older boys are going to go see the movie Avengers tonight.  Frank wants to see it too but he needs to get some rest so he's going to go another time.

So about the meeting Frank had today--it was at Marriott headquarters and everyone who works in his building had to be there.  They announced that they are starting the process of "assessing" and "reorganizing" and that there will probably be some lay offs before they are through--but not until 1st quarter 2013.  They have also initiatied a hiring freeze.  We are extremely grateful that Frank made it through the official hiring process before now; otherwise, he would be stuck as a contractor indefinitely and he would be much more vulnerable to a layoff, I think.  There's not much point in worrying too much about the layoff situation, at least until next year.  We'll just have to see what happens.  Overall, Frank thinks his department is fairly safe because no one else does the things that they do, but there's never any way of telling about these things of course.  So not great news, but we're just going to try to forget about it for now.

Now that Scott is done with his play, he's had more time on his hands so I've encouraged him to start some serious job hunting and he's made a little progress in that area.  He also got his graduation announcements sent out and we are trying to make a final decision about his housing for next year.  I do not remember getting  into / getting ready for college myself being as stressful as it has been getting Scott through the process. :)

That's it for this week.  Since I didn't take any pictures, I thought I'd take a stroll down "memory lane" and add a few from the past.  So what were we doing in May 6 years ago?  Well, we were visiting our old stomping grounds in western New York. 

Here is our family at the visitor's center for the Smith family log home:          




This visitor's center was new to us--we moved away shortly after the log home was built, but the visitor's center hadn't been built yet.  Notice that none of the boys are taller than me--even Scott is still a little bit shorter! (May 2006)

The boys walking down the path from the log home to the frame home.  The frame home was under renovation when we left and it looked totally different by the time we came back for this visit!  Actually, this path was new too.  It used to be the main road (traffic) through the area but they re-routed the road to go behind the frame home.


Scott in the Sacred Grove


Tanner in the Sacred Grove


Jared



Flowers on the Palmyra Temple grounds.  The temple wasn't there when we lived there, either!  It was so awsome to see a temple there.  It is so beautiful!


The Peter Whitmer home looked exactly the same as we remembered.  The only thing that had changed was us.  The last picture we had taken in front of this building, the boys were about knee high and Jared was inside me!

This concludes our trip to the past. :)